Recently, one of our clients in The Feminine Magic® School of Manifesting posted a bit of a mindbender…
She was sharing that when “let go and let God” she manifests beyond her wildest dreams. When she grips the reigns, she doesn’t.
“So how do I claim 100% to be the uncontested author of my life and still allow the Divine (God, Goddess, etc) to have the ultimate say?”
In other words… who’s REALLY in the driver’s seat of our manifestations?
What an awesome question!
For so many of us, this is an elephant in the room… especially if you came from a more traditional religious upbringing.
Even if you aren’t outwardly religious per se… you’ve probably come across the idea that a higher power has the power, not us. That the Divine is all powerful, we are subject to Divine will and timing, and ultimately with little say as to how it all goes down.
Even if your beliefs aren’t that extreme, the question is still present.
Who’s really in control of your destiny?
Is it the Divine… or you?
The answer may rock your world…
In my personal experience, the answer to “who has the power?” has always been pretty clear.
For as long as I’ve been a priestess, a witch, a magician… the Divine (who I call Goddess) and I have had an understanding.
Even before understanding the nature of our own Divinity… that Thou Art Goddess… I instinctively knew that I WASN’T to be putting all my power in Her hands. And that I was from her and OF Her… made of the same substance as She.
In my magical tradition, there is no separation between God(dess) and us. No intermediary running interference between She and we. No hierarchy, no authority, no power over… all the while acknowledging that She is… well, Goddess, and all that entails.
And so am I. And you. And every other BE-ing on this planet.
Now, that might not be your frame – that you are God(dess) and She is you and you are one and the same. The idea that we are on a level playing field with the Divine is pretty radical.
However, there are a couple of big facts on the ground that make our personal beliefs about this somewhat irrelevant.
One, we create our reality through our perception. We experience our world through the realm of our five senses. Some quantum physicists will even tell you that all time exists in the now and all matter responds to our attention. Those ideas are still being disputed, but whether you believe you have “magic powers” (ha!) or not, your senses are running the show.
That in and of itself gives you tremendous influence over your life. And then…. there is that little matter of… choice.
For another spiritual perspective (and because I can talk about this stuff all day), I reached out to a good friend, who is of deep Christian faith, to hear his take on it.
God is all-powerful, he said, but he loves us so much that he gave us the power of… CHOICE.
There it is again.
Choice. Free will. The power of decision.
Choice is one of those big things that separates us from other life forms. It has been called “[our] greatest power.”
And… if we have free will…
If the power to choose is ours…
And our choices determine our outcomes… then it really doesn’t matter if God(dess) has “the final say” or not.
Because you always choose. Even in the most horrific circumstances.
As you choose, so shall you create.
In that sense we have God(dess)-like power. And that’s a beautiful thing!
You get to choose what you wish to experience in any given moment, regardless of what is going on.
You get to choose, “I’m having this right now,” instead of waiting until Divine timing wills it so.
There is always a choice! #wheee
Now… of course we can’t always access and exercise our free the way we want to.
There ARE such things as “acts of God(dess)” that are completely out of our control. Our reaction to them, however, is never 100% out of our control, provided that our brains are still functioning.
Yes, of course that’s going to be more difficult in some circumstances than others! And our brains complicate matters, too.
We are loaded with conditioning and neurological programming that unconsciously impacts and overrides our ability to choose.
We don’t have as much control over our choices as we think we do. Our human brain is designed to set-up automatic behavioral responses that prove certain patterns and beliefs to be true…so we find ourselves making choices and taking action on autopilot…
That’s why in Feminine Magic® we master 4 magical tools one of them being CHOICE. So we can begin to transcend the old patterns and step into BE-ing the one who has it now.
A big part of the deeper work of magic is shifting and transforming these patterns to live from your Essence underneath. Because despite our programming, we still have choice. We can make choices before the patterning takes over.
We can wake up to our Creative Power, embrace it, and use it.
So if our free will gives us so much power, why is the experience of manifesting often easier when we “let go and let God(dess)?”
Because you let go. You stop gripping so tightly. You detach from the outcome.
Spirit (the Divine) operates completely deductively. What you energize (give your energy to) manifests.
When we are CLEAR on our outcome, energize what we want (instead of what we don’t want), relax and let GO and take aligned action, we open up to the possibilities of how it could happen, rather than cutting them out of our perception.
We feel lighter. We struggle less. Ease begets ease.
That’s not giving God the reigns – though of course we can frame it that way if we so choose. That’s co-creating with Spirit. That’s using the Law.
That’s owning OUR role, so that the Creative Substance can do its role.
The very FIRST step to activating your Creative Power is to accept the fact that you are always at choice, and therefore always at cause.
Put another way, it’s to take 100% responsibility for your life. Period, end of story.
How can you do this when others make choices that impact you, and sometimes those choices are awful?
You are never responsible for another person’s choice. However, if that choice affected you, then you always have a role – even if that role is unconscious, or the incident that happened to you was totally random.
There is no downside to taking 100% responsibility and owning all your choices, both conscious and unconscious, because doing so restores your Creative Power.
And this doesn’t mean there isn’t room for Goddess-given miracles or that you’ve because you’re in control that you’ve gotta “make things happen” in a forceful way.
It simply means you recognize your power to choose what you impress upon Creative Substance and therefore influence what you receive back in response, miracles included.
It means you always have a choice as to how you respond – no matter how bad the situation.
It means you choose to be in vibrational alignment with what you Desire and then watch how Creative Substance responds in kind, often with far greater manifestations than you could’ve imagined.
No forcing required.
Spirit operates deductively. Your world reflects your choices.
And if something less than ideal happens along the way… how do we accept our responsibility over outcomes we’d never wish for in a million years?
First, we feel all the feels. Embracing choice is NOT about denying the facts on the ground, or our emotions around them. It’s not about making parts of ourselves bad or wrong, either. We BE, deeply, with whatever is.
Then, we go into curiosity.
No drama, story, or charge… just curiosity.
What is my role in all of this? And what do I want to create now?
With these simple questions, we hop back into the driver’s seat.
Back into our power where we can choose…
Is a higher power responsible for what’s going on here and what I’m calling into my life, or am I?
Do I want to the victim, or will I accept my free will and full Creative Power to manifest everything I Desire and take action from that place?
What choice will I make right now?
There is no downside to accepting your ability to choose. Your choices create your life.
I’d love to know how this lands for you in the comments. xoxo