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How To Make An Epic Gratitude List

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I love this time of year, especially being in the coaching and personal development world.

Over the next two days and beyond, we’ll receive a veritable smorgasbord (ha! I kill me!) of posts on gratitude, love, appreciation and giving thanks.

I say, bring it on!

It’s time to double down on the gratitude – especially this year.

And it’s the perfect time of the year to start, or renew, a gratitude practice.

Now, I’d bet a milkshake that you already have a bunch of gratitude tools in your toolkit.  (Indeed, I realized today that this is our second article on gratitude in less than two months.)

I’d like to add to that by giving you one of my all-time favorites.  (And it’s something I’ve never shared before.)

I call it – The Epic Gratitude List.

Its origins are in a practice an old friend taught me many years ago, called The List of 100.  (You can steal this too.)

The List of 100 is a list of one hundred things you’d like to be / do / have / experience in the coming year.

Some are big.  Some are small.  Some are really 3-year and 10-year goals.  The point is not to do all of them (though you will many of them, especially if you print your list off and tape it to the wall, like I do), but to list them all and put down what you really want.

So we’ll get back to that a little later (though if you want to start your List of 100, by all means go for it)… for now, you can see where this is going.

The Epic Gratitude List is a list of 100 people, situations, experiences and things you’re grateful for right now.

Some are big.  Some are small.  It really doesn’t matter.

What DOES matter is that you get them down, because the goal of this is to create a tangible, physical representation of the abundance you already have.

So what makes The Epic Gratitude List really special?

The length, for one. Sure you may be checking in with gratitude every day… or making a list of 5 or 10 things…

… but how often do you make a list of ONE HUNDRED THINGS you’re grateful for?

Answer: probably not very often.

The point here is to dig deep – go past the usual stuff you give thanks for every day, and really notice the good things all around you. And how many good things you have.

Another point of The Epic Gratitude List is evidence.

Have you ever noticed that when you’re feeling like sh*t, it’s really hard to make the gratitude list?

I mean, here it is supposed to be this high-vibe tool and all… and it is. But when you’re in the thick of it, you may have noticed that gratitude can be really hard to access.

That’s when you pull out The Epic Gratitude List and look at the facts.

The “squishymind” – as my husband puts it – has a really hard time arguing with the facts on the ground. Which means it’s really, really handy to have the right kinds of lists (those with evidence of awesomeness) at your disposal.

So over the next couple of days, when we’re all swimming in the sea of gratitude… I invite you to make an Epic Gratitude List. Not just for now, but for the days where you’re not. (Not swimming in the sea of gratitude, that is.)

And if you really want to go the distance – I invite you to blow past 100 and go all the way to 1000!

One more thing about this practice – and it’s really the only “rule,” per se…

Make your Epic Gratitude List fast.

This is not the time for overthinking. This is the time for gratitude momentum. Plus, it’s always fascinating to see the order in which it comes out. And what we forget. (No judgment, just fascinating and you can always add more later.)

To inspire you, I’ve included my own Epic Gratitude List for this year. I made it in about 40 minutes.

To your health, wealth, joy and LOVE this Thanksgiving. I am grateful for you!

Elizabeth’s Epic Gratitude List, 2016

  1. Leland, the love of my life.
  2. Brigit, our bright arrow and the other love of my life.
  3. The ridiculously epic amount of relationship work that both Leland and I have done this year, and all that has transpired as a result. (This is something I’ve been quiet about but will share more later.)
  4. My immediate family – J, H, A, M, L, M, J, and…
  5. Leland’s immediate family – H, M, J, G, B, and…
  6. Michele, Michelle, Nancy, Shannon, Jolanta, Kris, Melissa – the core 7-Figure Goddess team of this past year.
  7. Sarah, Tim, AJ and Maya – team for what’s coming next!
  8. Jim and Cyndi Padilla, for enrollment support and deep friendship. Jim, I love you.
  9. All of the strategists on our enrollment team, past and present.  Denise, Cindi, Debbie, Nachhi, etc etc etc
  10. Joni, John L, Greg and Francine – our legal and finance team
  11. The women of the Desire Mastermind, past and present
  12. The women (and cool guys!) of Goddess Business School and Platinum Program Secrets, past and present
  13. The women – and yes cool guys too! – of the Feminine Magic® trainings that have allowed me to develop this work
  14. The women and men of our 7-Figure Goddess circle
  15. The women and men of our extraordinary 7-Figure Goddess doTERRA team
  16. Bernadette Doyle, for helping me see what’s possible
  17. Justin Livingston, for his marketing genius, love and who he BE
  18. American Express! Good golly, I frickin’ love Amex and how easy they make everything
  19. Chase Bank. They have been incredibly helpful to me and their client care, even when you call the call center, feels local. An impressive feat.
  20. All the other financial institutions I use, including Direct Pay and our local credit union
  21. Kiyla Fenell, my mommy she-ro and the classiest essential oils leader ever
  22. Rachael Jayne Groover, for such grace, class and amazing work in the world
  23. Susan Peirce Thompson, for Bright Line Eating
  24. Jeff Walker and what he created
  25. Jennifer Longmore, for who she BE and all she has taught me
  26. Women & men of the LEAP and the Rockstar 100 – Vanessa, Pamela, Amy, Darla, Shelley, Kristin ST, and everyone I’m forgetting in this list-making whirlwind
  27. Elayne Kalila Doughty, Ariel Spillsbury and the women of the 13 Moon Mystery School
  28. Mitch Horowitz, for all he does to raise the standards and image of esoteric work (a true friend on the path)
  29. David Neagle, for who he BE and all that he has taught me
  30. Tony Pennells and Makaylah Rogers, for all they are doing to change money consciousness on the planet
  31. doTERRA Essential Oils, for being such a commitment to the health of the planet
  32. Athena Perrakis and Sage Goddess, for leading the way raising the standards and caliber of magical supplies – and of course all the cool stuff :)
  33. Being so present in Brigit’s life – being able to spend so much time with her at this stage
  34. Jesse & Sharla, and all in the Leaders for Conscious Entrepreneurship
  35. Gary Salyer, for his mad phat ninja NLP skills
  36. Linda, Scott, Julia, Christy and all the PDX crüe
  37. Scott and SARK for all of their support & FB love this year!
  38. For all our partners, for spreading the word about our work this year
  39. Denise DT – for all of the partner support, friendship and late-nite messaging!
  40. The Akashic Records and to the Recordkeepers for all of their guidance
  41. Doreen, Delores, Dion, Maud, Moina, Annie, Florence, Pixie, Mary K and all the women magicians and priestesses of the Western Esoteric tradition who came before me (yeah, ok, so this is a big one)
  42. Neuro-Linguistic programming and all of its influence on my life and Feminine Magic®
  43. Amy Brucker, Carolin Hauser and past GBS clients (they may or may not know who they are) who inspire me to be the best Feminine Leader possible
  44. That I get to do what I do. Hello, amazingness-still-need-to-pinch-myself.
  45. Carey Peters, for being a friend through it all
  46. Wald & Ruth Ann, my early Tarot teachers. To Wald for a middle-of-the-night emergency phone call last year that changed everything.
  47. The Entelechy Girls and my old school spiritual family
  48. Always having an abundance of money in the bank account
  49. The knowledge of how to create an abundance of money or anything else, regardless of what is going on
  50. The amazingness of how the community around me has shown up during the post-election craziness
  51. All those fighting for what’s right, everywhere
  52. Cutting all ties with those who are not as I thought they were; who I am as a result
  53. The iPhone, Macbook Air and all of the other technology that makes life easy
  54. Uber!! Love me the Uber.
  55. For all the basics: our homes, running water, lights, electricity, etc. May I never take any of that for granted
  56. Really good manicures :)
  57. The immense amount of personal freedom I enjoy
  58. Lee Milteer – another sister on the magical path and a true role model
  59. Baeth Davis, for not letting me cop out on myself
  60. For 3 altars and everything on them and the ease of access to such high-quality magical tools. (The me of 20 years ago wouldn’t know what to do with herself)
  61. The Portland Airport. The Port of Portland is truly the BEST.
  62. The outdoors, nature, the sun on my face and yes the rain as well
  63. Long walks in Macleay Park
  64. The Oregon Coast, especially Cannon Beach and the Surfsand Inn
  65. Laguna Beach – Rich German I’m coming to hang out with you!!
  66. The Science of Getting Rich – this book has changed my life so many times
  67. The myriad of slow cookers in my kitchen (a guilty pleasure, guys – you have no idea how obsessed I am with my slow cooker)
  68. The remarkable nannies, teachers and caretakers who have enriched Brigit’s life this year
  69. Roasted Brussels sprouts, which may be entirely responsible for my 25-lb weight loss
  70. Morning walks with my two loves
  71. Date nights
  72. Half-million dollar launches – and the knowledge to reach $1m and beyond in a single launch next year
  73. Pink Sakura Gelly Roll pens, Levenger paper
  74. The Celtic Holidays channel on Pandora
  75. Lee’s Vision Quest – what an incredible experience!
  76. The ability to work from home and all of the amazing freedoms it provides
  77. Sedona, AZ – here’s to spending even more time there
  78. The Core Manifesting Process (the manifesting process at the heart of our Feminine Magic® trainings), and all that it has empowered me to create
  79. Snuggle time with my man
  80. Snuggle time with the Girl
  81. Leland / Elizabeth / Brigit / all-three-together
  82. Coloring time with the Girl; the adult coloring craze
  83. Saturday morning Mommy / Brigit breakfasts
  84. Watching Brigit develop language
  85. Helping Brigit create her first altar
  86. A morning ritual that really works
  87. All of the parenting joys, lessons and experiences of the year
  88. The way that magic has worked its way into public consciousness – again, unimaginable to my 24-year old self (DR. STRANGE the movie, anyone?)
  89. Benedict Cumberbatch (hey, while I’m at it :) )
  90. The essential oils in the diffuser right now (Wild Orange and Frankincense); plus the vast collection scattered all over the house
  91. Really, really high quality food in ample supply
  92. Oregon farmers markets (see above)
  93. Custom-made clothing on Etsy
  94. Clients and friends who have been with me since the start of my business or even before, who have watched me evolve and grow
  95. Bee, Kat, and old friends from way, way back
  96. New York City, and all the years I spent there
  97. The New York City magical community and all it taught me (and still teaches me)
  98. Mark Waid, for who he BE and all he taught me
  99. Hillary Clinton, for all that she is
  100. Donald Trump, for so clearly illuminating what needs to be healed
  101. Universal Law – all the ways it empowers us and all that it demands of us
  102. All of those out there working on behalf of others who do not have the conscious awareness (yet) of how powerful they really are
  103. For the ability to ask and then have it be given
  104. Yes, for the lavender Michael Kors handbag that ended the search for the perfect handbag :)
  105. My trusty Plantronics telephone and headset
  106. $5 million in revenue in 7 years (!!!)

And the list goes on and on….

For more ways to express your gratitude, see Gratitude Practices of A 7-Figure Businesswoman.

A Simple But Powerful Healing Practice For Challenging Times

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A few years back, word got out about a psychologist in Hawaii who created some big-time miracles with a ward of criminally insane patients. All without ever seeing any of them personally.

Before he came along, patients attacked staff in the hallways. Said staff was terrified to come to work.

Within a few months, patients were getting well. Staff satisfaction soared.

Eventually, the ward was closed entirely because virtually all the patients had been released.

So how did this psychologist do it?

By working on himself.

Every day he went to work and rather than seeing patients, he sat in his office and directed his attention toward healing whatever unhealed place in himself had created their illness.

He utilized an ancient Hawaiian healing prayer you may have heard of. It’s called ho’oponopono, and it goes like this:

I love you.
I’m sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.

Remarkable, yes?

The story of Dr. Hew Len brought ho’oponopono into mainstream awareness, and it’s now shared in a ton of personal development and healing programs.

And I will tell you from first-hand experience, it’s powerful.

So why am I sharing this story?

It’s been a tumultuous couple of weeks to say the least, with our country’s polarization blown up in all its glory on everyone’s Facebook and Twitter feeds.

Many of us are feeling like perhaps the world has gone completely insane.

Many, many of us are feeling woken up from our slumber, and are called to step up and show up in a way we never have before.

On both sides there’s been a lot of less-than-enlightened behavior… even in the transformation space.

It’s not surprising, because we’ve got nothing if not massive FEAR about how this is going to play out. When we’re fearful, it’s all too easy to slip into an overwhelming desire to be right – fear masquerading as righteous and judgment.

But let’s be clear about what this really is… it’s an aspect of the shadow that lives in all of us.

Fact its, we all have a dark side.

We all have the capacity to exclude, judge, cheat, lie, destroy. Even kill.

And shadow requires judgment, because if things were not judged they would not be in the shadow.

What you resist, persists – and even become stronger. Resist your dark side, it holds on tight.

The shadow is a force, it’s energy. It has a motion, a movement. Above all, it wants to be expressed.

And it WILL be expressed, one way or another. The question, of course, is how it will show up.

For many, a vote for Trump was a call against the shadow of the Washington status quo.

Many others feel that we just put a glaring symbol of our collective shadow in the White House.

Regardless of how you voted or who you support, one thing is clear – we are all being asked to come to terms with the shadow, within and without.

So what can we do to make peace with this shadow, to heal from our individual and collective pain, and to begin to truly effect change?

In the story of Dr. Len, people asked why the ho’oponopono prayer worked.

The reason is simple, but not easy. The reason the prayer works is personal responsibility.

The whole premise behind ho’oponopono (and what makes it so powerful) is that we are all creating our own experience, both internal and external. Therefore, we all have the power to heal and transform that experience.

In an excerpt from Zero Limits, a book written about Dr. Len by Joe Vitale, he explains what personal responsibility means:

This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy–anything you experience and don’t like–is up for you to heal. They don’t exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn’t with them, it’s with you, and to change them, you have to change you. 

Holy shizz, right?

It can be a tough pill to swallow, especially when we really, really don’t like what we’re seeing.

Especially when we’re not comfortable with our own shadow.

But personal responsibility is not about blame. It’s about personal power.

There is no downside to taking 100% responsibility for your experience.

Sometimes it’s about asking…

What’s my role in this?
How have I contributed to this?
How have we all contributed to this collective experience of division, separation, attack and fear?

No judgment here. Just truthful inquiry, compassion, and most of all, love.

What unhealed place in myself can I direct my energy toward to transform this?

Anger, outrage, fear, despair…these are all real emotions, real energies, but we get to choose where we direct that energy.

Can we be compassionate at this time? Especially with ourselves, first and foremost?

Regardless of who you voted for or where you stand… as a collective, we remain in pain.

My invitation to you is to lean into the healing – starting with your own.

I love you.
I’m sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.

If Dr. Len could single-handedly cure one ward of criminally insane patients, imagine what powerful healing we could collectively create in our world by joining together in this approach.

Let’s lean into the healing, and the next step will be revealed.

I love you.
I’m sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.

Love and magic to you, now and always.

Navigating The Dance Of Feminine & Masculine Energy To Manifest Your Dreams

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I often ask our clients why they chose to work with me over another business mentor.

The answer almost always includes some form of the following…

Because you’ve got BOTH feminine and masculine energy going on.
You’ve got systems, and spirit. Heart and hustle.
You’re successful AND you’re a priestess.

All of that is true.

For example, the Goddess is my co-pilot. I’ve priestess’ed, held space and led hundreds of rituals. I’ve been immersed in feminine spirituality for two decades. I’m a proud work-from-home mom.

On the other hand, I also have a masters in computer science. I was an engineer for 10 years.

I have a million dollar company. I get sh*t done. (You know, except when I don’t. ;) )

So one of the things I get asked a lot is “How do I know when to be in my feminine energy and when to be in my masculine?”

It’s a great question, because this is a real tension women feel, especially as we come out of the feminine spirituality closet more and more.

I love the new wave of feminine empowerment that has arisen in the past eight years or so. I’ve been blessed to be a part of it.

But one of the biggest challenges I see in the new wave is a backlash against what we might call masculine energy. And within it, a duality…

In one camp, we have the “over” women: over-giving, over-delivering, over-achieving, over-compensating, over-explaining, over-pushing and “trying to prove” energy. By the time she discovers the Feminine, she has truly HAD it with “being in her masculine” all the time.

On the other extreme, there are women who are much more comfortable in what we might call feminine energy – so much so that they find it challenging to be in their masculine – for making a plan, taking action, etc.

These women, I find, are often dissatisfied because they have not created even a fraction of what is calling to be birthed inside of them.

(These are extremes, by the way. Everyone has some of each in them, but I notice that women tend to fall more in one camp than the other.)

In both cases, there is this push-pull of Desiring a dream or goal and yet resistance in the form of “I don’t want to be in my masculine.”

Which poses a real problem when it comes to manifesting. Because to manifest anything, you need both.

So what do we do when we want to embrace our feminine core and yet still have ambition and a Desire to create?

It’s time to approach this masculine energy / feminine energy conversation a lot differently – especially with respect to manifestation.

It’s time to STOP making so-called “masculine energy” the bad guy. Because here’s what I’ve found, having been in the “over” camp my entire life…

What I had framed as “overachieving” and others had framed as a “need to prove” or “need to please” was really an expression of the deep need and drive to create. To become. To actualize. To live the life in my Highest Creative Expression, my Divine nature.

You know… Desire.

So it’s time for creatively ambitious women to stop making themselves wrong because their innate creative drive has been channeled in a certain direction.

And it’s definitely time to learn how to manifest in way so that we are coming from a resourced place, not one of depletion…. so that we are creating what our soul truly wants, not what we have been told we “should” want or what we think we can have.

How do we begin?

  1. Drop the judgment and simply start to notice what it feels like to be “in your masculine” vs. “in your feminine.”

It starts with a little deeper look into these energies.

In any creation, there are two energies at play: masculine and feminine. You, too, have a masculine nature and a feminine nature because you are a creative being.

The Masculine: Rational, linear, active, doing, driving, directive. The tangible. Active principles of “becoming.”

The Feminine: intuitive, non-linear, invisible, intangible, the passive aspects of BEING. Receiving.

One is putting energy and input OUT, the other is receiving energy or input IN.

So start to notice how it feels for you when you’re tapping into these energies. What lets you know when you’re accessing your feminine vs. your masculine?

Become intimately aware of how you utilize these energies now. Where are you most comfortable hanging out?

  1. Get clear on what action REALLY is.

In Feminine Magic®, we work extensively with a critical distinction: the difference between aligned action and what I call “DOING.”

DOING is “do-do-do” attempts to meet conditions that we think need to be met in order to have what we want.

For example, let’s say you want to make more money in your business so you think you need the new headshot, the fancy website and branding, the big list, etc. etc.

None of that actually brings in money. Having a conversation with a real live human being and inviting them to work with you brings in money.

One is the doing, and the other is the aligned action. (See the difference?)

Even receiving requires aligned action, because 99% of the time when an opportunity comes to us we have to make some sort of a motion to actually receive it into our lives.

The DOING and trying to meet the conditions totally blocks us from 1.) being able to receive our guidance, and 2.) from embodying the energy of who we need to BE to attract what we want, which is in essence a feminine state.

Most of what I see as frustration with “being in the masculine” is really frustration with being in a state of constant, useless DOING.

Aligned action is usually not difficult or complicated. It is, however, often uncomfortable.

  1. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

In an interesting and soul-growth-enhancing twist, the aligned action required to manifest is often one that you don’t want to take!

So you feel resistance… you feed the resistance… and cue feeling drained and depleted.

Often (not always, but often) the source of stress / exhaustion / what-have-you is NOT taking the aligned action itself…. but all the drama we create around it.

In other words, it’s not “the masculine” that leads to the burnout, it’s all the resistance and the unnecessary energy we expend to avoid the aligned actions that allow us to actually receive what we Desire.

So you’ve got to get comfortable with the discomfort, and don’t mistake it for pushing or hard work. It’s simply the friction between your Essence or higher-self, and your conditioned human self.

Once you’re clear on what feminine and masculine feels like for you, you understand the difference between doing and aligned action, and you’re ready to embrace discomfort…

… now you can start to play with these energies and call on them as needed to manifest your Desire.

Here’s one way the creative process might look:

  1. Desire: What comes first is feeling a Desire, a creative urge, which requires being in a state of receptivity – Feminine
  2. Clarity: In order to create anything you must also be in a place of clarity, you must make a decision. The manifesting process starts with knowing what you want and claiming it – Masculine
  3. Embodying: This is where you step into the energy of who you need to BE to receive this Desire, opening to guidance and receiving the aligned action (or as we say in Feminine Magic® “receiving the way”) – Feminine
  4. Aligned Action: Now it’s time to take the action itself, to act on the opportunities, to move forward – Masculine
  5. Receiving: This is about living in expectation of the result, feeling the gratitude for the fulfillment of your Desire, and allowing it in – Feminine

Notice the dance?

When you get really good at this you find you’re able to flip-flop seamlessly without getting burned out because you’re employing both energies in their highest expression.

Yes, at times there will be a need to roll up your sleeves and power through. But when it’s a deep soul Desire that you’re after that’s not a bad thing.

It’s a lot different to “make it happen” when it’s YOUR dream than when you’re chasing after someone else’s ambition.

And there will also be times when you’re really being called to rest.

There are times when what’s needed most is to be still and surrender to the mystery, to be in the void – which is the cauldron from which everything is birthed.

In fact, if you really want to up your creative abilities, I invite you to spend a lot more time in the void. And then be prepared to take what you discover there and go forward.

At the end of the day, there is no formula. There is discernment, self-honesty, and an acceptance that in any creation there are two energies at play.

When you embrace them both, that’s when miracles happen.  Here’s to your miracles…

How To Cultivate Unstoppable Confidence

Once upon a time.  I knew this girl.  Let’s call her Ellen.

Ellen was one of those girls who everybody loved.  As was the case with girls that everybody loved, I spent many moments trying to unpack what made her so special.  Because that’s what you do when you’re an awkward 12 year old.

I just didn’t see it… until one day in gym class.

We were doing something basketball-related.  Ellen was a basketball player, but on this day she wasn’t exactly rocking it.  Standing behind the free-throw line, she tossed shot after shot.  And missed.  Over and over again.

At a certain point it was getting embarrassing.  For me, I mean.  But she remained unfazed.

Finally, she made ONE shot.  Then another.  Then another.

Later, I went up to her.  “You were missing shots left and right.  But I never saw you get upset.  Why?”

She shrugged and said… “I’ve taken these shots so many times, I knew it was only a matter of time before I made one.”

Cue penny drop.

I had two realizations:

Confidence. That was Ellen’s je ne sais quoi.  (Bet you didn’t know that I used to be near-fluent in French. ;) )

And…

Confidence is not something you’re born with.  Confidence is something you can learn.

Turns out I was partly off base on that one.  Confidence IS something you’re born with.  Watch some babies for a while and you’ll see what I mean.

The problem is, we un-learn it.   Circumstances and people become patterns and conditioned responses.  Until we choose something different.

Confidence is something you can learn.  To do so is a choice.

And it’s one of THE most important decisions we will ever make.

As a business coach I’m always being asked (in one form or another): What makes one person successful… and another, not so much?

It’s not just ONE thing…. but a big piece of it is confidence.

Without confidence… you won’t trust yourself, won’t make decisions, and won’t move forward.

So how do you cultivate unstoppable confidence?   I’m so glad you asked.  :)

  1. Decide.

A few years back I was on stage for 5 minutes at a speaker training with my dear friends Jesse & Sharla of Thrive Academy.

I was doing my thing at the front of the room, and I could feel that I was owning that stage.

Afterward, a woman came up to me and commented on how I rocked it.   She was specifically referring to my confidence.

I thanked her for seeing that in me, pointing out that confidence had never come easy to me.

She said, “I actually don’t believe that.  You’ve always been as confident as you were up on that stage.  You just forgot.”

I immediately knew it was true.  Not just of me, but of everyone.  Confidence is a part of the Divine package that you already are.

So you have to decide.    Are you going to choose the reality of confidence, or the non-reality of doubt, fear, hesitation, timidity, not-enough-ness, too-much-ness, unworthiness?

It really is as simple as that.

  1. Sacred Commitments to Self

In magic, we say, your word is your wand.  You’ve probably also heard stage magicians using the word “abracadabra,” which means… “I create as I speak.”

When I say something, it is so.

Except for most people, it’s not.  Why?

Because most people don’t follow through on their commitments, especially to themselves.  And every time you break a promise to yourself, your confidence takes a BIG hit – usually without you even realizing it.

Fortunately, the opposite is also true.  Your confidence increases every time you keep a promise to yourself, whether it’s getting to bed by 10pm, having 5 Transformational Selling Conversations, spending an hour a day on a key project, or whatever it may be.

So if you want more confidence… make sacred commitments (aka goals) and follow through.

The key to making this work is to choose commitments that you can actually keep.    Set yourself up for success by choosing a goal that’s a stretch, but doable.   As you follow through and your confidence increases you can keep raising the bar.

What’s great about this from a magical perspective is you’re using all of your 4 Magical Tools… perception, choice, energy and faith.

Bonus tip:  When you set a goal, take aligned action quickly.  Waiting to act only creates “maybe” energy, which drains your confidence.  When you act decisively and quickly, even if you need to course correct or take a new action, it strengthens your confidence in your ability to respond to any situation.

  1. Commitments to Others

Think of all the people in your life to whom you’ve made implicit or explicit commitments:

Your partner…
Your kids…
Your clients…
Your JV partners…
Your friends and family….

Are you keeping those commitments?

Just like the promises we make to ourselves, our ability to keep our promises to others impacts our confidence.

For example, if you tell a client you’ll deliver a piece of content by a certain date and don’t do it, how do you feel?

It feels awful.  And there’s a part of you that starts to learn that the things you say are not to be believed, trusted, and counted on.

On the flip side, every time we honor a commitment – whether it’s picking up the dry cleaning for a friend or showing up on time to an appointment, or a lifelong vow to your spouse – the more you increase your faith in your ability to follow through and the more your confidence expands.

Which leads us to the next confidence-building key…

  1. Maintain Strong Boundaries

Keeping your commitments to others does NOT mean you have to do everything for everyone!

Weak boundaries are definitely a confidence-killer.

For example, saying yes when you want to say no (and vice versa).  Otherwise known as being afraid that someone isn’t going to like you if you say/act as you really feel.

Boundaries are your personal power.  Personal power (your ability to create as you think, speak, Desire) equals confidence.

When you’re clear on where you end and others begin and can communicate that authentically and with grounded presence, your inner confidence and sense of self is strengthened.

I challenge you to give it a try this week – find a place you’ve been saying yes that you really want to say no, make a new choice, set a boundary, and notice what happens to your confidence.

  1. Protect It.

It’s SO easy for our confidence to take a hit.  Why?

I believe that one of the reasons is because our brains are set up to make our primary feeling be… feeling crappy.   Low confidence equals staying in the same place – i.e., “safe” to our brains.  (Yes, I am oversimplifying here.)

So we need to protect our confidence.  Which means making it a priority.

Make commitments.  Keep them.  Guard your mind from negativity.  Guard your mind and energy field from well-meaning but people who would trample your dreams.

When you have a new idea, project or intention, protect the energy by staying silent for a while.  Reveal only what you need to those you trust.  This isn’t defensiveness, it’s honoring your creative process.

Make your energetic state a priority.  Which is what this confidence thing is really about.

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You are Divine being having a human experience.  And as a Divine being you are instilled with all the confidence in the Universe.   You are also a beautiful BE-ing living in a physical body.

A couple of weeks ago, I was listening to a class with a good friend who also happens to be one of my favorite spiritual teachers.

Someone was asking her about confidence.  She said:

“Confidence is felt, not cultivated.”

Frankly, I don’t agree with that as stated.  Confidence IS cultivated.  Because while we can choose to feel confident (which is what she was getting at)… our brains are not necessarily going to be down with that if we’ve been programmed otherwise.

So choose first… then practice, practice, practice.    Past all the conditioning, experiences, the fear and resistance, and all those worldly illusions… to return to you to who you really are, a powerful – confident – Creatrix.

Let me know how this goes for you in our Facebook group!

Gratitude Practices Of A 7-Figure Businesswoman

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One of the questions I get all the time is, “Elizabeth, how do you keep your shizz together in the midst of the chaos?”

Which is another way of asking how I “get it all done.”

I don’t get it all done. I have a ton of help, and truly… any “crisis” in my biz really isn’t that much of a crisis. #firstworldproblems

As my good friend Jennifer likes to say, “There’s nothing 911 about what we’re doing here.”

That said, we do have our fair share of what I like to call… happy chaos. :)

Our biggest launch of the year (200+ new clients) while traveling, coinciding with visiting relatives (happy news, but hello – launching, yo), a sick kiddo and the first day of preschool, ever (ditto) are all recent examples.

So how do I “do it all” without losing my shizz?

It’s a many-faceted answer, but a big part is…. gratitude. The very intentional use of gratitude.

You may have heard the phrase that fear and gratitude cannot coexist. It’s almost impossible to feel stressed or fearful when you focus on something you’re grateful for.

So that alone can help you shift your energy in any stressful situation. But the power of gratitude to manifest what you desire goes well beyond that.

Gratitude instantly shifts your state. When you are in an energetic-ly positive state (or vibration)… your perception shifts and you can actually SEE the opportunities that already exist to claim what you want.

When you live in the state of having your Desires already, you’re able to perceive exactly how to create them in your life.

So here are the 3 practices that have been most impactful for me, that have enabled me to create a 7-figure business and a life I love.

These are incredibly simple, but don’t underestimate the effect you can have on your life.   More gratitude equals more miracles. Done and done.

  1. Morning Gratitude

Years ago, after I quit my job and before my business took off… I spent about 2 years in what I call my dark-night-of-the-soul period.

I won’t belabor the details now, but suffice to say – it was gloriously, wildly painful. The equivalent of someone shooting poison daggers at me all day, every day. Except the person doing the shooting was me, in my own head.

Then there came a point where I’d had enough of the self-torture and decided to make a change. The way out?

Gratitude.

Back then I started a practice that I continue to this day. (If you’ve listened to our radio show episodes, or hung out in the Facebook group, or read our emails, you’ve likely heard me talk about it.)

The practice was to condition myself to “go into gratitude” from the moment I open my eyes. It goes something like this:

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•  Cue the gratitude :)

Within 30 days of starting that simple practice, my world began to change. Somewhere along the lines of day 16 or 17… I had a download that would bring in $20k (starting from zero) and become the basis of all of my coaching and teaching ever since.

If gratitude on awakening doesn’t resonate with you, that’s OK. The idea here is to practice some kind of gratitude in the morning. Because what we do in the morning sets the stage for the entire day.

Over time, gratitude in the morning can literally re-wire your brain to be in a happy place nearly all of the time.

These days, in addition to gratitude at first consciousness, I take a tip from Tony Robbins. During my morning ritual, I feel gratitude for 3 specific things in my life. One of those things has to be something really simple.

Why? Because it’s in the simple things, the day-to-day moments, that our lives are made. When we can love the simple things, the little things – that’s when we are really living. And we have to train ourselves to do it.

(Tony talks about this in recent video on morning rituals filmed at what looks like a meeting of Joe Polish’s Genius Network. The video is well worth watching.)

  1. Gratitude Statements

This is one of my favorite manifesting tools of all time. Why? Because it works.

No, really – it’s freaky how well they work. Like, write-the-statement-and-the-thing-will-appear kind of freaky.

A gratitude statement is a statement of your goal, already manifested, in the form of giving thanks. You can start them off in any number of ways; however, my favorite is this old school opener from Bob Proctor:

“I am so happy and grateful now that…”

Why do gratitude statements work so well?

When you take the practice to the end of the line and actually read your statement regularly, while taking on the feeling of it being 1000% true… you embody what it’s like to have it now.

A gratitude statement is a shortcut to embodying having it now. Which – you guessed it – shifts your perception and allows you to magnetize the opportunities that already exist in your world to create it now.

I’m so happy and grateful now that we have welcomed 200 awesome new clients!

I’m so happy and grateful now that my team has worked beautifully together to execute a successful launch!

I’m so happy and grateful now that my daughter and parents are enjoying quality time together!

Got a Desire to call in or a challenge to resolve, with lightning speed? Simply write a gratitude statement for the outcome you Desire, then read it aloud every day.

Of course you have to take action on the opportunities that come your way. You do have to follow through on the rest of the manifestation.

Do that, and… this is one of the fastest ways I know to manifest anything. (Seriously.)

  1. Giving Appreciation

This 3rd practice is an advanced strategy, and it’s based on the Truth that what you appreciate appreciates.   It’s simple:

Express thanks and appreciation to the people around you – your partner, your team, your friends, your colleagues, your clients, the checker at the grocery store, even the people you perceive as competitors.

In other words… appreciate everyone.

The reason this is so powerful is because it puts the energy of giving into circulation.

True giving comes from a place of abundance, and therefore it attracts more abundance. To receive, first you must give – from a truly empowered place.

One of our Desire Mastermind clients is masterful at this. She’s continually expressing appreciation for the other members of the group, for me, for her clients, her team, her partner, even her biggest challenges. As a result she’s continually in a state of flow… good things come to her seemingly without effort.

If you see someone else with something that you want, bless them and appreciate them for what they’ve created.

Somebody who challenges you? Bless them as well!

The key to this strategy is to give your appreciation with sincerity, and to give freely.   You must be giving from a place of surplus – not giving-to-GET. (Get love, get approval, get money, get clients… you get the idea.)

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With the intentional and consistent use of gratitude in this way, you’ll be amazed at how rapidly your experience will begin to shift.

I invite you to try these practices starting today, or take inspiration from them to create your own. Then let me know what you notice – come join us in the 7-Figure Goddess Facebook community.